Talking to Someone With Suicidal Ideation

Talking to someone with suicidal ideation can be challenging and emotional, but your presence and support can make a significant difference. For effective tools to help with this topic view the details below; keep in mind each situation may require individualized approaches and interventions.

1. Educate Yourself

Before engaging in a conversation take time to introduce yourself to information about suicide and mental health. Learn about the risk factors, warning signs, and available resources in your local community. This knowledge will help you better understand what the person might be going through and enable you to provide informed support and resources for your community.

2. Choose the Right Time and Place

Ultimately, the goal is to gain an understanding of of another’s thoughts/wellbeing. So, it is important to plan and find a suitable setting where you can have a private and uninterrupted conversation. Ensure that both of you have enough time and space to talk openly without distractions. A calm and comfortable environment can help the person feel more at ease when discussing their thoughts and emotions.

3. Active Listening

Active listening is crucial tool when someone is sharing feelings of distress. To do this, continuously focus on giving a person your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and show genuine interest in what you hear. When engaged, respond with empathy, nod, and encourage the person/conversation with verbal cues to show that you are present and engaged in the conversation; don’t be afraid to use silence as a tool for allowing another to share. We often feel we have to fill space with our thoughts and words, so relax your mind and body, and remember to breathe while actively listening and providing room for sharing.

4. Validate Their Feelings

When someone opens up about their suicidal thoughts, it's important to validate their emotions. Let them know that their feelings are acknowledged and that it is okay to feel the way they do. Express empathy and avoid dismissing or trivializing their experiences. Validating their emotions fosters trust and helps create a safe space for further discussion. One simple method of validation includes paraphrasing what you heard to the individual or repeating a word that resonates with you.

5. Use Open-Ended Questions

Encourage the person to express their thoughts and feelings by asking open-ended questions. This type of questioning prompts them to share more and allows for a deeper understanding of their experiences. Avoid questions that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." Instead, ask questions like, "How have you been feeling lately?" or "What has been going through your mind?"

6. Remain Non-Judgmental

Avoid passing judgment or making negative comments about their situation. It is crucial to provide a non-judgmental and accepting environment. Be patient and understanding, even if their thoughts or feelings seem difficult to comprehend. Remember, your role is to listen and support, not to solve their problems or provide quick fixes.

7. Express Your Concern

Let the person know that you genuinely care about their well-being. Use phrases like, "I'm worried about you," or "I'm here for you." Expressing your concern can help them feel valued and supported. However, it's important to be authentic and avoid making promises you cannot keep.

8. Avoid Minimizing Statements

Refrain from making statements that may diminish their experiences or emotions. Phrases like, "You have so much to live for," or "Just think positively," may invalidate their struggles. Instead, focus on active listening and empathizing with their feelings as described above. Acknowledge the pain they are going through without trying to downplay it.

9. Safety Planning

If appropriate and with the person's consent, consider collaboratively developing a safety plan. A safety plan outlines strategies for coping with suicidal thoughts and identifying activities to engage in if the thoughts are active, identify contact information for support networks, and emergency service contact information for your community. Involve a mental health professional to ensure its effectiveness.

10. Encourage Professional Help

While you can provide initial support, it's essential to encourage the person to seek professional help. Suggest that they reach out to a licensed mental health therapist, counselor, or psychiatrist who can offer specialized assistance. Offer assistance in finding resources or making appointments, transportation, or childcare if needed and able. 

11. Follow Up and Support

Stay connected with the person and continue to show your support. Sadly, there is no band-aid solution for suicidal ideation. Follow up regularly to check on their well-being and remind them that you are there for them. Encourage self-care practices and engage in activities together that promote their mental well-being. However, remember that you are not a substitute for professional help.

Conclusion

Suicidal ideation can be an intimidating topic to discuss, but if you implement the methods above an honest conversation can blossom. However, if the person is in immediate danger or at risk of self-harm, contact emergency services in your country right away.

*Please note that the advice provided here is not a substitute for professional help. It's crucial to seek guidance from qualified mental health practitioners to address suicidal ideation effectively.